I have been married for 6 years. My problem is I cannot bring my wife here because my salary is only 1000 QR. I’m not able to get a family visa. I can go to my homeland only once in every two years. Is it advisable for me to stay without my wife for so long? Sometimes it may lead to my making mistakes. So should I continue to work here or leave this job and stay with my family?
All praise to Allah for providing sustenance for all of His creatures. Some He has raised higher than others so that they may employ them for useful work and earn their provisions. May Allah reward your efforts to care for your family and all of you for the sacrifices you are making as a family unit to stay together.
Being away from one’s spouse for two years presents a definite hardship on both marital partners. In order to remain chaste for such a long period requires much fasting to reduce sexual cravings, as well as doing pious acts and many good deeds for Allah’s sake.
Likewise, in Islam a period no longer than six months away from one’s wife is the recognized limit if both partners agree. In other words, if you or your wife find that a longer period of absence threatens your marriage or your religion, then it is better to get a job that does not require such a long absence or return to your country to be with your wife. We refer you to our fatwa section for details regarding this matter. Allah has promised not to burden a person beyond his capacity, and to follow every difficulty with ease.
May Allah guide, preserve and protect us from all evil, and reward our efforts to provide for our families at all times, especially when we are short of supply. May He help us to stand firm in faith, and draw us closer together in His worship and His service.